I have a beef to pick with these types of quotes.
They feel good… yeah well so does heroine Janet. But man is the withdrawal a Bitch.
Section 1: why this is wrong
Section 2: how to apply deliberate thought whenever you pass these thought traps in the future.
Section 1:
Sentence ONE is using a grounding method. Something that you will agree with as it is something universally experienced.
There will be times in life when no matter what you do for some people it will never be good enough.
Yeah that checks out that will happen sometimes. Okay now that you AGREE, and are in a bad head space. I bet you remembered when that last time that hurt was. It’s okay you know some people give others take, you are allowed to feel like you should have gotten more.
Sentence TWO is our affirmation. This is the thought we want you to have. Make you strong and it is easy to agree with. The fault is with the other. Motivational quote has your back. You go girl!
Do not change who you are just to seek for someone’s acceptance and approval.
What nonsense is this? Well then why should I change myself? Should I be after my own approval?
What if I really really feel compelled to receive this persons attention, acceptance, approval, endorsement? What if they are my boss and I need to pay rent so my child isn’t homeless? Maybe I could become a morning person for work?
Sentence THREE is affirming our affirmation
Always stay true to you.
Because that can’t be false it lends false credibility to the shit advice in the middle of this sammich.
1 true 2 nonsense 3 true
How can you not be true to yourself. You are always you? If you lie to yourself well I guess you are good at practicing self deception, is that not still you?
Now if this line read
Always be your best self
That’s a whole other concept, that is something you should strive to be. Whether your ideal is strength, kindness, or talented. That self would take work… we don’t want that.
Sentence FOUR is the consequence, if you don’t do this or you fail at this you will suffer
Those who truly love and respect you will always be by your side.
If you feel alone, Well I guess no one truly loves or respects you… what else could be the answer.
If you have only one or two people you count as close, you can go ahead and close yourself off from others outside your circle since if they truly loved and respected you they would be by your side.
If you betray your true self of course you can suspect those around you to betray you as well.
Gee thanks
Successful Relationship Advice
Now that I am depressed and sad, and I think that you are the authority on successful relationships I guess I will buy your oils or take your webinar, and if that system you sell doesn’t work it must be because I didn’t try hard enough. I am a failure, maybe I need another batch and another course or a personal coach.
Section 2
Test 1: Does this advice work for a narcissistic asshole or a drug addict?
If yes, then it is bad or non advice
Test 2: Can this be tested?
If no, then it is bad or non advice
Test 3: Does this make me want to stop scrolling and act upon the message?
If no, then I am going to forget it
Test 4: Is this true in all aspects?
Well no, there may be bad habits or attitudes or changes that I may need to make to gain someone else’s approval.
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