Heroism in the Office

Modern masculinity walks a real fine line these days, that line becomes even slimmer in an office setting. From the 60s to the early oughts, the easiest way to frame a romantic lead as the protector was simply to have him step in against an aggressor. Bonus points if the aggressor is larger in size or has more “intimidating allies. I’m talking about the biker who slaps a girl’s ass or the drunk frat boy who won’t take no for an answer, our heroine showing visible discomfort before the hero steps in. This scene played well until the late oughts then things changed.

The first thing to change was years of these scenes in the media making it socially clear that the aggressor was already in the wrong and the heroine being able to defend herself either socially with a flat out verbal rejection, use of a taser, or more recently her mary sue like combat training. These scenes didn’t necessarily ruin the romance but often provided an opportunity for the male romantic lead to either see her not as someone who needs to be protected but as an equal capable of being the protector if the situation calls for it. 

These scenes create a new problem, because now how can you show the age old dynamic of protector hero and delicate heroine. A dynamic many still enjoy. You can’t just rehash the tried and true aggressor without calling attention to all men as dangerous, even if there are “good ones”. It also frames women as being incapable of protecting themselves. Congrats you’ve alienated a portion of both sexes being independent women and those men who count themselves among the “not all men”. 

Here’s how Mobius threads the needle. In Episode 2, 28 minutes in, we are given a flight plan. Our romantic lead and main character Ding Qi and his potential romantic partner An Lan share an elevator ride. At first the ride is just the two of them catching her up on Ding Qi’s new position as security for her CEO and hints of intimacy brewing. Their intimacy gets interrupted by a flow of people onto the elevator making the space instantly cramped. Here’s where the protector dynamic starts, Ding Qi grabs two hand rails creating a safe space around An Lan who now occupies the corner of the car. As the elevator starts to move it’s important that we see insecurity and then comfort come over An Lan as she doesn’t have to rub shoulders and jostle with the office crowd because Ding Qi is shielding her. Ding Qi looks back at her and checks on her and they exchange glances letting him know that she is fine. Then after we see her smile a careless passenger steps on the foot of Ding Qi. Now normal social etiquette would have most people just be uncomfortable but that’s not what you’d want from a masculine hero. A modern masculine hero needs to stand up for himself in a socially acceptable way though. Ding Qi’s solution was to politely speak up “You’re on my foot.” loud enough that those in his vicinity could clearly hear him but soft enough that only those in his immediate vicinity would hear and everyone could pretend except the offender could pretend like they didn’t hear anything. This allows everyone to save face in the situation where the person stepping on his foot could move and everyone gets to pretend like nothing happened. However, the offender doesn’t move. This time loud enough for the entire car to hear and with an aggressive tone Ding Qi repeats himself, the man turns around sees the challenge and backs down. 

Ding Qi has successfully shown himself willing to protect the comfort of An Lan and stand up for himself against challenges but to do so in socially acceptable ways.

My key takeaways from this scene are

Use of escalating levels of conflict

Talk < Speak with Authority < Return Aggression < Physical

Protection must be given after consent, either implied or explicit 

An Lan puts herself behind Ding Qi and he pins her in the corner, giving her his back. Then checks on her for continued consent/approval.

None of this works if we as the audience don’t have the proper background music and explicit shots of the actors showing their changes in mood and approval. (great directing).

If written it’s easier to simply narrate the characters thoughts and feelings on the event.

Mobius 

TechTemperance the dating App for Techno Puritans

Techno puritan dating app “TechTemperance”

The Techno Puritan Federation has decided to monetize romantic evangelism. Taking a cue from the LDS singles churches, The Techno Puritans have gone digital. 

“It’s not about getting revenue from exploiting the lonely. It’s about solving a problem, and that’s why we don’t care about turning a profit from the app itself. It’s about creating a healthy and happy base for the Federation for generations to come.”

Critics of the App have stated that this nothing more than a russian funded orthodox christian honeypot, which seeks to exploit it’s users by funneling them into the cult, with it’s promises of creating “successful” relationships and by “successful” they mean explicitly hetrosexual relationship for the purpose of making women into baby factories. They’re advice is to “STEER CLEAR and STAY QUEER” direct words from Efreet Alimony (“Islam’s most progressive Imam” -Vanity unFare)

The Designers think that the applications unique restrictions, restrictions they brand as features, will allow users to spend enough time, digitally at first, with potential matches. Biological women who have hit their head on a rock and wish to use this handmaiden esq. App must have three other people, verified with phone numbers, facebook pages, and bank accounts, register as her guardians. These guardian’s will be given the profiles of potential matches and they will select the user’s potential matches. Those selected matches will be her only options for an entire month. Ladies and Gentlemen we have gone back to regency level women’s rights and a cavemen’s idea of women as property. Disguised as women’s safety. 

“We think that in the modern era, it’s not the fault of the 20 something looking for love, hopped up on hormones and hallmark romance, that women are vulnerable to ill intentioned actors. Having the courtier’s motives, online profile, and text’s via the app under the scrutiny of not just his potential wife but of some of her closest community. All of whom have the power to potentially veto the toxic actor, should give an extra sense of safety beyond sending a friend a screenshot of a man and a location where the murder investigation should start.”

Disregarding the attempts at humorizing the real threat every man poses against women, the App explicitly excludes Transgendered women from joining. While the App is free to biological Cis-women and their guardians, it does require a deposit which is forfeited if the user is found to be transgender. Not just shaming but to steal from our transgender sisters, another sign that the capitalist user licenses hold more power than the constitution.

When asked what if a woman doesn’t have three people who are willing to be her guardians.

“We don’t have the best answer for people who can not conduct themselves well enough to have friends or family…”

He then proceeded to offer me tips about how to find and make meaningful relationships. After my ears stopped bleeding from the ten thousandth time I’ve been mansplained too, we discussed the most controversial restriction the app demands. There are five levels of a potential relationship. If a user and her courtier advance themselves to level five, then the courtier has access to all the messages she made to others using the app and he can decide whether or not to remove the women’s ability to chat with other men.

All of these restrictions, or features, are meant to streamline dating so that marriage is reached within six months of a user and her courtier reaching level five. While we think that is operation warp speed levels of promise. The founder’s state that they have discounts and in most cases free access to their martial contract services, fancy words for prenuptial agreements.

The one nice thing I will say about this app is that for the desperate Biological Cis-gender Women is that once you decide to take back your life and leave the app. Your “commitment” deposit is returned promptly.

  • An interview with S.A. Tire.

The Canteen (quick fic)

“The usual?” Ricardio the bar tender asked, eying me for either recognition or trying to recall if he remembers what that is. He didn’t turn his back waiting for me to tell him the truth. How this prick knows, I can’t magine. But he earns his tips that’s for sure.

“Stronger, today Ricky.” He nods twice and pours me three fingers of mercury vodka and two shots of mash bitters. Then starts making another.

“It’s in the eyes you know.”

Throwing back the first glass. “What?”

“Whatever you’ve lost this time. It’s more than pride, pride is in the lips. Loss is in the eyes.”

“Sure thing.”

Sliding the next glass under my nose. “You’re not going to find it at the bottom of a bottle. But you know that.”

“Just need some time, Ricky.”

///

Finally a step-up, working security for Krok. His last dog was shot down over getting between him and a junkie. Now I’m that dog, 750 Kroner for covering the weekend deals. Krok has got to be the easiest gig. I mean running was fun and the adrenaline was exciting, but I got a baby girl now and have to be a bit more responsible. All I got to do is be seen, be mean, and throw myself between him and either a pinch or a punch.

The only reason to leave is when the marines are off duty and looking to save some damsels. They come here for a fight, lucky the glow bright. General Rockhard sends his rookie’s here to test them against his brother’s racers. I always liked watching that scuffle. In true fact, I met my baby mama right over by the iHeart box. I tossed one of the racer’s back into the fray, He was being thrown and would have landed on her and her girls night out table. Course being a proper crimesman, I can’t stick around for when the station boys show up at start tazing everyone.

Tonight seems like the port is empty and the deals will be with the regulars.

///

“Because I wanted to play pool?”

Mindy scoffed. “You want to see Gavin on his key-ter?”

“Oh, is he playing here tonight?”

“Honey just don’t throw your panties at him.”

“I’m not going to embarrass you.”

“Just being here is embarrassment enough. How am I to attract the attention of a rich captain? When this is where the bilge crew drinks?”

“You’re dressed to the nine’s look how scared all the men are to talk with you.”

“Ten’s honey, I am a ten of ten even here.”